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July Focus
Learning to Pause:
Why Rest Is Part of Healing
By Dr. Tara J. Snow
"Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." — Matthew 11:28
Why Rest Matters?
As a Christian counselor, I've had the privilege of walking alongside people facing anxiety, grief, trauma, addiction, burnout, relationship struggles, and life's unexpected challenges.
One thing many of these experiences have in common is prolonged stress.
Stress isn't always the enemy. In short bursts, it's actually helpful. It prepares us to respond to challenges and keeps us alert in dangerous situations.
The problem arises when stress never turns off.
Our bodies aren't designed to stay in "survival mode" indefinitely.
Without healthy periods of rest, we may begin to experience:
Difficulty concentrating
Irritability
Anxiety
Trouble sleeping
Physical exhaustion
Frequent headaches
Muscle tension
Emotional numbness
Increased conflict in relationships
Sometimes we think something is "wrong" with us, when in reality, our mind and body are simply asking for rest.
What Happens in the Brain?
When we experience ongoing stress, our brain releases hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline. These chemicals are incredibly helpful during emergencies, but when they remain elevated for long periods, they can affect our ability to think clearly, regulate emotions, and feel at peace.
Over time, chronic stress may contribute to:
Increased anxiety
Difficulty making decisions
Feeling emotionally overwhelmed
Problems with memory and focus
Physical fatigue
Greater risk of depression and burnout
The good news?
Our brains are remarkably resilient.
Healthy rest helps regulate these stress responses and gives both our minds and bodies an opportunity to recover.
Rest Is More Than Sleep
When people hear the word rest, they often think of sleep.
Sleep is important, but true rest involves so much more.
Healthy rest can look like:
Spending quiet time in prayer
Reading Scripture
Taking a walk outdoors
Sitting beside a lake
Enjoying a hobby
Laughing with friends
Journaling
Turning off your phone for an hour
Listening to worship music
Sitting quietly with a cup of coffee
Rest isn't about doing nothing.
It's about doing what restores you.
Jesus Modeled Rest
One of the things I love most about Scripture is that Jesus never rushed from one miracle to the next.
Even while people were waiting for Him...
Even while needs surrounded Him...
Even while crowds followed Him...
Jesus intentionally stepped away.
Luke 5:16 tells us,
"But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed."
If the Son of God made time to rest, pray, and reconnect with the Father...
Perhaps we should too.
Rest isn't a sign of weakness.
It's an act of wisdom.
Practical Ways to Prevent Burnout
You don't need a week-long vacation to begin caring for yourself.
Sometimes healing begins with small, consistent choices.
This week, consider trying one or two of these:
✔ Take a 15-minute walk without your phone.
✔ Drink enough water throughout the day.
✔ Spend five quiet minutes in prayer.
✔ Go to bed thirty minutes earlier.
✔ Say "no" to one unnecessary commitment.
✔ Read a chapter of a book that encourages you.
✔ Spend time with someone who fills your heart instead of draining it.
✔ Step outside and notice God's creation.
Small moments of restoration add up over time
Have You Ever Felt Guilty for Resting?
If you're like many people I meet, the answer is probably yes.
We live in a world that celebrates busyness. Our calendars are full, our phones rarely stop buzzing, and many of us wear exhaustion like a badge of honor. We tell ourselves things like:
"I'll rest when this project is finished."
"I'll slow down after the kids are older."
"I just need to push through one more week."
Before we know it, weeks become months, and months become years. We become so accustomed to running that we forget what it feels like to simply be still.
But here's the truth:
Your mind, your body, and your spirit were never designed to live in a constant state of stress.
Rest isn't a luxury.
It's a necessity.
A Personal Reflection
This past year has reminded me how important it is to slow down.
Like many of you, I've walked through seasons I never expected—seasons that required me to stop, heal, and trust God in ways I hadn't before.
As someone who genuinely loves helping others, I understand the temptation to keep going even when you're running on empty.
But I've learned something valuable.
You cannot pour from an empty cup.
Taking care of yourself isn't selfish.
It's stewardship.
When we care for our own emotional, physical, and spiritual health, we're better equipped to love our families, serve our communities, and fulfill the purpose God has placed on our lives.
This Month's Challenge
Over the next seven days, give yourself permission to pause.
Not because everything on your to-do list is finished.
Not because you've "earned" it.
But because your heart, mind, and body were created with rhythms of work and rest.
Ask yourself:
What is one thing I can do this week that restores my soul?
Then make time for it.
You may be surprised how much lighter life feels.
Final Thoughts
Healing isn't measured by how busy you are.
It isn't determined by how much you accomplish in a day.
Healing often happens in the quiet moments—when we finally stop striving long enough to breathe, pray, reflect, and simply receive God's peace.
So if you needed permission to slow down today...
Consider this your permission.
Take the walk.
Drink the coffee.
Read the Scripture.
Call the friend.
Watch the sunset.
Pet your dog.
Rest.
Because healing isn't found in constantly doing more.
Sometimes...
Healing begins when we learn to pause.
🌿 A Fresh Perspective
"The strongest people aren't always the ones who never stop. Sometimes they're the ones who have learned when to rest, trust God, and begin again."
With gratitude,
Dr. Tara J. Snow
Founder, myTarapy, LLC
Real Life. Real People. Real Healing.
💗 Before You Go...
What is one small way you can care for yourself this week?
Sometimes the smallest step toward rest becomes the biggest step toward healing.
We'll see you next month for a Fresh Perspective on another topic designed to help you understand your mind, strengthen your heart, and continue your journey toward hope and healing. 🌿